I’m in my late 30s. I started going to a holistic psychotherapist 7 months ago. I know this is not a very long time. I orginally went to get help with something different. I was not planning on staying in therapy for 7 months. But now I’ve opened up about my sexual abuse as a kid. I trust my therapist. I always share how I’m feeling about our relationship. I’m not working and I have way too much time on my hands. (I’ve had about 9 interviews in 2011 and I finally got a part-time seasonal job in the end of 2011 – but it was a contract job and the contract ended a week ago – and it was working ONLY 2 hours a week). I think if I had a full-time job again (or working at least 32 hours a week) I’d be able to move on and heal a little more quicker. But – I’m not sure if healing “quickly” is the answer to my pain.
I’ve NEVER felt so emotionally dependent on anyone. But I’ve also never opened up on an emotional level and discussed so much about my sexual abuse. I feel like I can’t go on with my life without her in it! The transference between me and my therapist is real. I recognize it often and I know what it is. I’m also doing inner child work and I do a lot of Gestalt therapy on my own. I see her once a week (32 sessions so far).
What I’d like to know is how long does it take to heal? I’ve changed a lot since I started. The way I look at life has changed, but I’m in so much pain. I’ve read much on psychotherapy and I know that it is common for a patient to think of his/her therapist all the time. (I’ve already read “The Gift of Therapy” by Irvin Yalom. Great book). The patient only has one therapist, the therapist has many patients.
If I get this job (I just had an interview) I will not be able to see my therapist anymore. I don’t want to see another therapist since I already opened up to her and I trust her. Will I be able to heal on my own if I do get this job? If I do continue to go, will I be in therapy for 2 or 3 more years?
How Long Does Therapy Last?
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Depending on the person, they could be in therapy for 5 months or 5 years. There’s really no telling how long your therapy will last, because it’s all about how you progress as a client and how quickly you are able to move on from the past.
Your dependency on your therapist is, as you said, perfectly normal. I would suggest talking to your therapist about your concerns. That’s what they’re there for, and it’s definitely something that they would want to know. People often think that they have to hide concerns from their therapist, but in reality it’s what therapists want to hear. Any input on how you think the sessions are going not only helps you, but it helps them as well.
I don’t know if you’ll be able to heal on your own, because I don’t know you or what you’re talking to your therapist about. My only suggestion is talking to your therapist about it.
Good luck on the job hunt!
Your question, how long does the therapy last? Quiet impossible to tell. Your situation is complicated and depressing I understand. Why did you bottle it up for so long? Anyway moving forward, working with the underprivileged helps. Keeping yourself occupied helps too. If you know what I mean. There are people who have gone through worse. Listen to their stories and you might feel better. I am not trying to be philosophical here. Just trying to get you out of this situation. Your other question, will I be able to heal on my own? why not girl? Of course you can. I would say that you wanting to forget the past is not going to happen. But you can heal it by just letting go of what happened instead of taking the experience along for the ride. Easier said than done. I don’t know how bad your abuse was but there is so much abuse happening today that we may get comfort by knowing our abuse may not have been so bad in comparison.
You trust someone? That’s good for you. You believe in god? Even better. You feel like you are falling in love? That’s fantastic. What more could you want out of life?