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My Husband Has This Thing About He Doesn’t Want To See Anyone’s Baby After Losing Ours What Should I Do?

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It has been 16 months since losing our son due to premature delivery he only survived 2 weeks. Since then its been hard to heal but he seemed to be quicker at it then me. I still cry sometimes but since we’ve been trying and still no pregnancy. Since 16 months three of our closest friends have had babies and I discussed with him about visiting the last one who just had the baby to bring a gift. He explained that he doesn’t want to see a baby anyone’s baby. I am just curious if anyone has been through this. It hurts me as much to see that everyone else has had there baby but I still understand that I have to heal and try for another baby. He has been trying to get me pregnant it hasn’t worked and I just don’t know what else to say or do.

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  1. JDoubleU Says

    16 months is a long time but you never really heal. Especially right after losing a baby. Every commercial, everywhere you go – there is a baby to remind you of your loss.
    When I lost my baby my cousin and my sister-in-law both got pregnant and didn’t tell me for months because they didn’t want to rub it in my face. That was nice of them but it kind of made me feel like they think I wouldn’t be happy for them despite my loss – and I was happy for them.
    Your husband has to get a grip and when he starts to be genuinely happy for others, he can begin to live with the loss.
    All the doctors tell you that once you’ve physically healed you really shouldn’t think so much about trying to get pregnant – you’re supposed to just live and it will happen.
    Good luck to you and your husband. Try to get your husband to get involved with other people’s children before he is filled with a hate he’ll never be able to get over.
    There are support groups that can help. He is continuing to rob himself of the joy of life and it’s not helping you either. Let him know how his actions affect you and keep you stuck in that loss.

  2. Sean Says

    I’m sorry for what have you been through I think that it’s just a matter of time.Try to relax and don’t push hard on yourselves because not getting a child is not the end of the world and I’m optimistic that you will have one in the future;)

  3. Rachael Says

    He obviously is still hurting. The truth is life has to go on. Maybe he needs to talk to someone about it such as a counselor or a church leader.

  4. Steve Says

    I think what he’s doing is actually pretty normal. I haven’t been through this so can’t imagine what it’s like. My guess is that everytime he sees someone elses baby it reminds him of yours and it is painful

  5. Merry Christmas Says

    well thats a bit weird isn’t it. he needs to get over it, this happen to loads of people and they don’t act in this immature fashion,

  6. Salacious Crumb Says

    Move to another planet.

  7. G. Samaritan Says

    This things are understandably painful. I would say take your conversations about the experience to the next level. It may be difficult, but be patient with him. Ask him, what does he think will happen when he says someone else’s baby? How will he react? Talk it through with him. Let him know that you will be there to support him, but he has to realize that he has to get past this. I would google post traumatic stress disorder or grief counseling and possibly suggest that you attend couples counseling to discuss. My Best wishes and Prayer for your family.

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